Why you shouldn't give a F@*k
How do you maintain a positive outlook on life amid the daily grind? I was reading motivational articles, watching TED Talks, practicing positive affirmations.. I even downloaded an app called Grid Dairy; a journaling platform that allows you to categorize your day in sections so that you eventually train yourself to be performant in all areas of life. I had sections labeled; what am I grateful for?, how have I expressed selflessness?, new business opportunities & connections I've made etc.. Being positive all the time can be so exhausting!! Until I read, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson. It reinforced the way I used to think when I was in High School/College and I felt liberated again.
Here are some of my fav takeaways -
You are not special - "the rare people who do become truly exceptional at something do so not because they believe they're exceptional. On the contrary, they become amazing because they are obsessed with improvement"
The value of suffering - "if suffering is inevitable and if our problems are unavoidable, then the question we should be asking is not "how do I stop suffering" but "why am I suffering - for what purpose?"
You are always choosing - "when we feel that we're choosing our problems, we feel empowered. When we feel that our problems are being forced upon us against our will, we feel victimized and miserable". This is SO powerful. I come across a lot of people who have managed to overcome some pretty gruesome experiences. Have you heard of Bethany Hamilton? What an incredible story of resilience. Bethany is an American professional surfer who got her left arm bitten off during a shark attack while surfing in Hawaii in 2003 at the age of 13. But that didn't stop her, she still surfs professionally, has a growing family and is thriving today. What a Rockstar.
photo credits @Bethany
Failure is the way forward - "we can be truly successful only at something we're willing to fail at. If we're unwilling to fail, then we're unwilling to succeed." I've been avoiding starting a blog and sharing my opinion publicly due to possible backlash. I've always been concerned about what people would think - and where has this mentality got me? Stifled. Do you remember the movie Julie & Julia? That movie came out in 2009 about a woman who got famous blogging about Julie Child's lavish french recipes. All she did was publish it, and it grew organically. Can you believe that I've been thinking about launching a personal blog since then?
And here I am almost 10 years later, I've decided that it was finally time to get myself out there.. share my work, voice, life & views all while practicing the subtle art of not giving a beep ;)
Have you read this book? Does any of the above resonate with you? I'd love to know!